Get Clear on The Goal

Before you start on any relationship, it's a good idea to take an inventory of your mental and emotional health. Know what you want — and what you absolutely don't.

Think About This

In many traditional setups, husbands can benefit from the unpaid labor of a wife. Wives often take on a significant portion of household chores, childcare, emotional support, and caregiving — freeing up time for husbands to focus on their careers. They manage finances, organize social activities, and perform tasks that contribute to the smooth functioning of family life. It's important to recognize that in modern relationships, there is a growing awareness of the need for more equitable distribution of labor and responsibilities, regardless of gender.

Ask yourself:

  • • What is in it for them?
  • • What is in it for me?
  • • Is this a balanced, equal partnership, or am I carrying all of the weight?

Being honest with yourself here can save you untold years of misery. Matching your energies should come easily for someone who cares about you.

Think About This

The scientifically proven theory that married men are happier, while married women are less happy than single women stems from the imbalance in society today. For married men, marriage often provides social and emotional support, contributing to overall well-being. Men may benefit from having a partner who takes on responsibilities, allowing them to focus on careers or personal interests.

On the other hand, married women may experience less happiness compared to single women, and regret giving up freedom, peace, autonomy and independence. The unequal distribution of household and caregiving responsibilities, societal pressures of “having it all,” and declining marital satisfaction over time can all contribute to lower levels of happiness among married women.

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination — full of hope.”

— Maya Angelou